The Balance of Forgiveness

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I don’t know about you, but I usually find my ability to forgive inversely related to how personally I take the infraction. My ease of forgiveness can also depend on the intention behind the infraction.

For example, if my friend’s puppy Bella has an accident on my floor, I know Bella didn’t get up that morning and decide to ruin my carpet, so it’s pretty easy to forgive her. But if people specifically go out of their way to hurt me or someone I love, I find that much harder to forgive. And yet, I believe Marianne Williamson is right; forgiveness will heal the world. That’s because when we forgive, we are reclaiming balance in a decisive way.

Look at it this way: Forgiveness is a move away from the masculine principle’s self-focus and toward the feminine principle’s group focus. Forgiveness is also an act of compassion, which sits in the feminine principle. To forgive means that we raise ourselves out of the personal, out of the realm where we were injured, and view the situation from a compassionate perspective that supports forgiveness.

Plus, forgiveness fosters unity. An unforgiven act drives a wedge between the person who is hurt and the person doing the hurting. This creates separateness, which is an emphasis on the individual over the group. As we’ve said before, that’s a very masculine principle approach to the world. The feminine principle will never justify a cruel act, but it will forgive so there is movement toward wholeness and balance.

No one says forgiveness is easy. But it is something that will help us and our world. And that’s a worthy goal.

 Seek Balance: Who or what do you need to forgive today? Can you do it?

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About Vicki Matthews

Award-winning author, naturopath, and teacher who is passionate about establishing balance in our world.
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2 Responses to The Balance of Forgiveness

  1. Tim Farage says:

    Holding a grude against someone or some group harms you. It can lead to disease, depression, and other maladies. Forgiveness is essential to a happy, productive life.

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